Visiting a loved one in aged care can be a deeply meaningful experience—for both you and them. Whether it’s your first time stepping into a residential facility or part of a regular routine, making the most of your visit requires a mix of empathy, preparation and mindfulness. This guide offers practical tips on what to bring, what to say, and how to engage meaningfully during your time together (and for those seeking compassionate and inclusive options, there are many excellent aged care providers in Melbourne offering support tailored to cultural and individual needs).
Plan Your Visit with Sensitivity
Before you visit, it’s a good idea to call ahead or check with staff about the best time to drop by – some residents may have structured activities, therapy sessions, or medical appointments during the day. Visiting at a calm time ensures your loved one is relaxed and able to enjoy your company. Also, consider your loved one’s energy levels and attention span. For some, shorter and more frequent visits are better than one long stay.
What to Bring: Thoughtful Comforts from Home
A well-chosen item can brighten someone’s day and spark conversation. Here are a few thoughtful ideas:
- Photos or photo albums: Familiar faces and happy memories can be incredibly comforting and help stimulate conversation or reminiscence.
- Favourite snacks: If dietary restrictions allow, bring along their favourite treat from home—perhaps something homemade or nostalgic.
- Books or magazines: Choose light reads, large print editions, or even a short story collection you can read aloud together.
- Music: A portable speaker or a device with a playlist of their favourite tunes can uplift the mood.
- Arts and crafts: Simple activities like colouring, puzzles, or knitting can be both soothing and mentally stimulating.
Always check with staff before bringing any food or personal items to ensure they’re safe and appropriate.
What to Say: Meaningful Conversations Over Small Talk
Communication styles may need to shift slightly depending on your loved one’s cognitive health. Here are some gentle conversation tips:
- Speak clearly and slowly: Especially important for those with hearing loss or cognitive changes.
- Avoid correcting or challenging memories: If your loved one says something factually inaccurate, it’s often better to go along with their reality rather than cause distress.
- Ask open-ended questions: Prompt stories or reflections with questions like, “What was your favourite thing to do as a child?” or “Tell me about the best holiday you ever had.”
- Be present: Eye contact, hand holding (if welcome), and simply sitting quietly together can sometimes say more than words.
What to Do: Activities That Bring Joy
Beyond conversation, there are plenty of ways to spend quality time together:
- Take a walk: If they’re mobile, a gentle stroll around the garden or common areas can be refreshing.
- Join an activity: Many aged care homes offer group activities—ask staff if you can join in for bingo, music sessions or art workshops.
- Look through memory boxes: Some facilities create memory boxes filled with personal items from a resident’s past, which can be great conversation starters.
- Celebrate milestones: Bring a cake or card for birthdays and anniversaries to create new memories, not just revisit old ones.
Be Mindful When It’s Time to Leave
Goodbyes can be difficult, especially for residents who may feel isolated or confused. Keep your farewell warm and reassuring. You might say something like, “I had such a lovely time today. I’ll be back soon,” even if you’re unsure when you can return. Reaffirming your care and presence helps ease anxiety. If your loved one becomes upset or emotional, speak with staff afterwards—they can often provide strategies to support smoother transitions during and after visits.
Visiting a loved one in aged care isn’t just about showing up—it’s about making those moments count
Whether it’s through a shared story, a gentle touch, or a familiar song, these connections make a profound difference to their wellbeing and yours. And remember, the right support network matters too – families seeking compassionate, inclusive aged care can explore options through trusted aged care providers who prioritise dignity, respect and cultural understanding.
